Wednesday, December 9, 2009

Rejoinder to The Leadership Lesons from Tiger Wood's Recent Pains !!!!

1. Whatever happened to Tiger Wood happened in the past and it is going to happen again in the future. Everyone knows the difference between right and wrong and we know that there are consequences for our actions and inactions. The essence of my last encyclical and this present one is for us to look for possible good that might come out of his tragedy and see a glimmer of light. Perhaps, by reading this encyclicals, others might avoid the same pitfalls and other may gain some hope in forgiveness from God even when folks may never forgive or forget. Like King David of Israel, whose human failure was made open to all, his rebound would be the greatest legacy from this greatest golfer that ever lived.
2. However, we must learn that all sins are equal before God and that we must never judge other people too harshly because we are not without sin. We do not know what we would have done if given the same sets of circumstances as Tiger Wood. The truth is that the spectators are usually the best players. We need to focus on ourselves and on whom we have become. We must move from surviving to thriving as well as move from fault finding to fault bearing. Like King David again, neither Tiger Wood, nor anyone, can fall beyond the reach of God's love and forgiveness. The is the most important lesson of all.
3. It is true that some people take joy in other people's pain and want to feel better than others or better about themselves especially when reading or witnessing such scandals as Tiger's. The truth is that none of us is better than Tiger. Every one of us must do his or her own repenting and equally go through his or her own stages of repentance - the constant replays, the gnawing guilt, the shame and finally the hope a new beginning that springs from true repentance.
4. The fact that God did not exposed our sins or our nakedness to the whole world does not mean that we ought to act as if we are without sin. Sometimes, it is a good thing for God to expose our sins and have us go through the fire as to come forth out of it as tried gold. But all said and done, Tiger Wood by God's mercies will be born again as he accepts the present pains with humility and contrition.
5. We must never forget Bill Clinton and all the attempts to scandalize him. We must never forget that the people who were his loudest critics have all fallen flat on their faces with exactly the same sin and in some cases worse that President Clinton. Some of them have been caught in men's bathroom soliciting men for sex, some on mountain trails with their "soul mate" outside of their marriages, some caught with other peoples' wives, and the list goes on and on.
6. We should focus on getting God to forgive us of our transgressions instead of focusing on someone else's. This is the essence of this encyclical. We must learn to look beyond the pains and failures of others. Rather, we must learn to look for the glory that follows every suffering and the change that follows when any individual have gone through painful processes.
7. We must learn to give room for folks like Tiger Wood to heal and to find restoration with his wife and family. The less attention we give to this incidence, the better the family can deal with their problems and heal from their pain. For Tiger, this too shall pass as he reclaims his place in history and in the heart of humanity.

Rejoinder to The Leadership Lesons from Tiger Wood's Recent Pains !!!!

1. Whatever happened to Tiger Wood happened in the past and it is going to happen again in the future. Everyone knows the difference between right and wrong and we know that there are consequences for our actions and inactions. The essence of my last encyclical and this present one is for us to look for possible good that might come out of his tragedy and see a glimmer of light. Perhaps, by reading this encyclicals, others might avoid the same pitfalls and other may gain some hope in forgiveness from God even when folks may never forgive or forget. Like King David of Israel, whose human failure was made open to all, his rebound would be the greatest legacy from this greatest golfer that ever lived.
2. However, we must learn that all sins are equal before God and that we must never judge other people too harshly because we are not without sin. We do not know what we would have done if given the same sets of circumstances as Tiger Wood. The truth is that the spectators are usually the best players. We need to focus on ourselves and on whom we have become. We must move from surviving to thriving as well as move from fault finding to fault bearing. Like King David again, neither Tiger Wood, nor anyone, can fall beyond the reach of God's love and forgiveness. The is the most important lesson of all.
3. It is true that some people take joy in other people's pain and want to feel better than others or better about themselves especially when reading or witnessing such scandals as Tiger's. The truth is that none of us is better than Tiger. Every one of us must do his or her own repenting and equally go through his or her own stages of repentance - the constant replays, the gnawing guilt, the shame and finally the hope a new beginning that springs from true repentance.
4. The fact that God did not exposed our sins or our nakedness to the whole world does not mean that we ought to act as if we are without sin. Sometimes, it is a good thing for God to expose our sins and have us go through the fire as to come forth out of it as tried gold. But all said and done, Tiger Wood by God's mercies will be born again as he accepts the present pains with humility and contrition.
5. We must never forget Bill Clinton and all the attempts to scandalize him. We must never forget that the people who were his loudest critics have all fallen flat on their faces with exactly the same sin and in some cases worse that President Clinton. Some of them have been caught in men's bathroom soliciting men for sex, some on mountain trails with their "soul mate" outside of their marriages, some caught with other peoples' wives, and the list goes on and on.
6. We should focus on getting God to forgive us of our transgressions instead of focusing on someone else's. This is the essence of this encyclical. We must learn to look beyond the pains and failures of others. Rather, we must learn to look for the glory that follows every suffering and the change that follows when any individual have gone through painful processes.
7. We must learn to give room for folks like Tiger Wood to heal and to find restoration with his wife and family. The less attention we give to this incidence, the better the family can deal with their problems and heal from their pain. For Tiger, this too shall pass as he reclaims his place in history and in the heart of humanity.

Thursday, December 3, 2009

CRAZY NOT EQUAL TO STUPID



One truck driver was doing his usual delivery to Institute of mental health.

He discovered a flat tyre when he was about to go home. He jacked up the truck and took the flat tyre down.

When he was about to fix the spare tyre, he accidentally dropped all the bolts into the drain... As he can't fish the bolts out, he started to panic.

One Kolo patient happened to walk past and asked the driver what happened.

The driver thought to himself, since there's nothing much he can do; he told the patient the whole incident.

The patient laughed at him & said "can't even fix such a simple problem.... No wonder you are destined to be a truck driver..." You are stupid!

Here's what you can do, take one bolt each from the other 3 tyres and fix it onto this tyre. Then drive to the nearest workshop and replace the missing ones, easy as that" The driver was very impressed and asked "You're so smart but why are you here at the Institute of mental health?"

Patient replied: "Hello, I stay here because I'm crazy....... . Not STUPID!

CRAZY NOT EQUAL TO STUPID



One truck driver was doing his usual delivery to Institute of mental health.

He discovered a flat tyre when he was about to go home. He jacked up the truck and took the flat tyre down.

When he was about to fix the spare tyre, he accidentally dropped all the bolts into the drain... As he can't fish the bolts out, he started to panic.

One Kolo patient happened to walk past and asked the driver what happened.

The driver thought to himself, since there's nothing much he can do; he told the patient the whole incident.

The patient laughed at him & said "can't even fix such a simple problem.... No wonder you are destined to be a truck driver..." You are stupid!

Here's what you can do, take one bolt each from the other 3 tyres and fix it onto this tyre. Then drive to the nearest workshop and replace the missing ones, easy as that" The driver was very impressed and asked "You're so smart but why are you here at the Institute of mental health?"

Patient replied: "Hello, I stay here because I'm crazy....... . Not STUPID!

Monday, November 30, 2009

AIDS

Respect & protect

By respecting and protecting ourselves and others we can stop the spread of HIV and end HIV prejudice.

5 things you can do to Respect & Protect:

  • Find out the facts about HIV and talk to your friends, family and colleagues about HIV – make sure they know the reality, not the myths.
  • Know your HIV status: get tested if you have put yourself at risk.
  • Talk to all new sexual partners about using condoms. Using a condom during sex (especially vaginal or anal sex) is the best way to protect yourself and your partner from HIV and other sexually transmitted infections (STIs).
  • If someone tells you they are HIV positive, treat them with respect and don’t tell others without their agreement.
  • Wear a red ribbon as a symbol of your support for everyone affected by HIV, and to raise awareness.

What does Respect & Protect mean?

Respecting yourself and those around you by protecting yourself, both by using condoms and by educating yourself about the dangers of HIV. Rob, 22

For me confidentiality is top of the list when I think of Respect & Protect. And it is important we respect each other and protect one another. Annie, 50

Respect people whether they are HIV positive or not. And protect yourself from catching an avoidable disease. Steve, 43

If the man respects me they will be happy to protect themselves and me. Leah, 30

Respecting yourself and those around you by protecting yourself, both by using condoms and by educating yourself about the dangers of HIV. Rob, 22

For me confidentiality is top of the list when I think of Respect & Protect. And it is important we respect each other and protect one another. Annie, 50

Respect people whether they are HIV positive or not. And protect yourself from catching an avoidable disease. Steve, 43

If the man respects me they will be happy to protect themselves and me. Leah, 30

What does Respect & Protect mean to you?

Tuesday, October 27, 2009

The Prayer of Saint Francis

"O Lord, make me an instrument of Thy Peace!
Where there is hatred, let me sow love;
Where there is injury, pardon;
Where there is discord, harmony;
Where there is doubt, faith;
Where there is despair, hope;
Where there is darkness, light, and
Where there is sorrow, joy.
Oh Divine Master, grant that I may not
so much seek to be consoled as to console;
to be understood as to understand; to be loved
as to love; for it is in giving that we receive;
It is in pardoning that we are pardoned;
and it is in dying that we are born to Eternal Life
."

Friday, September 18, 2009

TODAY'S SCRIPTURE

"Bless our God, O peoples, give Him grateful thanks and make the voice of His praise be heard."
(Psalm 66:8, AMP)



TODAY'S WORD

Do you know why praise is so important? When you give God praise, you are putting yourself in a position of power. You are connecting with Him and strengthening your inner man. You are watering the seeds of destiny. He has placed on the inside of you.

If you are believing God for something specific, all throughout the day just thank Him that the answer is on the way. "Father, thank You for my new job." "Thank You for restoring my marriage." "Thank You for healing my body." When you live with an attitude of thanksgiving, you are putting your faith to work and activating God's supernatural power in your life. You are making progress toward seeing those promises
fulfilled.

Make the decision today to water those seeds of destiny with praise and thanksgiving. Put God first and acknowledge Him in everything you do. Soon, you'll see those promises take root, and it won't be long before they flourish into the abundant harvest the Lord has prepared for you!



A PRAYER FOR TODAY

"Heavenly Father, I choose to bless You and give You thanks. You alone are worthy of my praise. You alone are faithful and just. I trust You today with everything that I am, knowing that You have good things in store for me. In Jesus' Name. Amen."


Remember Jesus Loves and Cares for you. You are blessed.

Tuesday, August 25, 2009

TRUST

We trust consuming manufactured products with unknown ingredient
We trust the consumption of beef when cows have been known to go mad
We trust that a baby's breath doesn't stink.

We trust our world leaders to not let us down when they're only human just as we are.

We trust in our hopes and doubt our faith.
We trust animals of the wild to be our pet.

We trust the engine in a car fueled by an explosive product.

We trust the air we breath, being polluted daily by factories creating more things for us to trust in.

We trust doctors to make the right diagnosis or the surgeon to have a steady hand.

We trust electricity but fear lightening.
One thing we tend not to trust in is ourselves

We often second guess our capabilities
Believe in your abilities without thought or doubt

TRUST IN YOU!

Friday, August 14, 2009

WHO KEEPS YOU

Happiness keeps You Sweet,
Trials keep You Strong,

Sorrows keep You Human,

Failures keep You Humble,

Success keeps You Glowing,


But Only God keeps You Going!

Thursday, August 13, 2009

GET A DEEP SOUND SLEEP!

DO YOU OFTEN FEEL GRUMPY? IT SHOULD BE THAT YOU ARE NOT GETTING ENOUGH SLEEP. THE HASSLES OF WORK,DOMESTIC RESPONSIBILITIES AND CHILD CARE CAN MAKE SLEEP DIFFICULT TO COME BY. QUALITY SLEEP MAY EVEN BE MORE ELUSIVE WHEN OTHER UNEXPECTED CHALLANGES, SUCH AS FINANCIAL WORRIES, LAYOFFS, RELATIONSHIP ISSUES OR AN ILLNESS SETS IN.

YOU MAY NOT BE ABLE TO CONTROL OR ELIMINATE ALL OF THE FACTORS THAT INTERFERE WITH YOUR SLEEP, BUT YOU CAN CREATE AN ENVIRONMENT AND ADOPT HABITS THAT ENCOURAGE A MORE RESTFUL NIGHT. PRACTISE THESE TIPS IF YOU HAVE DIFFICULT FALLING ASLEEP OR STAYING ASLEEP.
1. GO TO BED AND GET UP AT ABOUT THE SAME TIME EVERY DAY, EVEN ON THE WEEKENDS. STICKING TO A SCHEDULE HELP YOU FALL ASLEEP MORE EASILY AT NIGHT.
2. DON`T EAT OR DRINK LARGE AMOUNTS BEFORE BEDTIME.
3. AVOID NICOTINE, CAFFEINE AND ALCOHOL IN THE EVENING AS THEY ARE STIMULANTS AND CAN KEEP YOU AWAKE.
4. EXERCISE REGULARLY.
5. MAKE YOUR BEDROOM COOL, DARK, QUIET AND COMFORTABLE.
6. SLEEP PRIMARILY AT NIGHT AS DAYTIME NAPS MAY STEAL HOURS FROM NIGHT TIME SLUMBER.
7. CHOOSE A COMFORTABLE MATTRESS AND PILLOW.
8. START A RELAXING BEDTIME ROUTINE SUCH AS TAKING A WARM BATH OR SHOWER, READING A BOOK, OR LISTENING TO SOOTHING MUSIC.
9. USE SLEEPING PILLS ONLY AS A LAST RESORT AFTER CHECKING WITH YOUR DOCTOR.

BIRTH CONTROL

I am sure most of you have a daughter, a granddaughter, a niece, a friend or a friend's daughter.... this might be worth checking out. PASS THIS ON EVEN IF YOU DON'T USE IT!!

Recently, this past week, my cousin Nicole Dishuk (age 31... a newly graduated student with a doctoral degree about to start her new career as a Doctor...) was flown into a nearby hospital, because she passed out... They found a blood clot in her neck, and immediately took her by helicopter to the ER to operate. By the time they removed the right half of her skull to relieve the pressure on her brain, the clot had spread to her brain causing severe damage. Since last Wednesday night, she was fighting for her life. They induced her into a coma to stop the blood flow and then operated 3 times.

Finally, they said there was nothing left that they could do. Multiple clots in the left side of her brain were found, the swelling wouldn't stop and she was on the life support. She died at 4:30 that day.. She leaves behind her husband, a 2-year old, Brandon and a 4-year old, Justin.

The CAUSE of DEATH they found was a birth control she was taking that allows you to only have your period 3 times a year. Doctors said it interrupts life's menstrual cycle, and although it is FDA approved... it shouldn't be. So to the women in my address book, I ask you to boycott this product and deal with your periods once a month, so you can live the rest of the months that life has in store for you.

Please send this to every woman you know - you may save someone's life. Remember you have a cycle for a reason.

FYI: The name of this new birth control is Lybrel. If you go to Lybrel.com you will find a least 26 pages of information regarding this drug. The second birth control is Seasonique. If you go to Seasonique.com you will find at least 43 pages of information regarding this drug. The warning and side effects regarding both pills are horrible.

Friday, August 7, 2009

KNOW IF IT`S LOVE

1. NEVER QUITS
2. DOES NOT WORRY ABOUT WHAT IT DOES NOT HAVE
3. HELPS OUT OTHERS, EVEN IF IT`S INCONVENIENT
4. IS NOT HAPPY WHEN SOMEONE GETS HURT
5. PUTS UP WITH THE ANNOYING THINGS THAT OTHERS DO
6. IS NOT CONCEITED
7. NEVER CALLS SOMEONE A BAD NAME
8. DOES NOT `KEEP SCORE` OF THE BAD THINGS THAT OTHERS DO
9. BELIEVES THE BEST ABOUT OTHERS
10. DOES NOT SAY `ME FIRST`!

Wednesday, August 5, 2009

WHERE TO KEEP YOUR PROBLEM

IF YOU KEEP YOUR PROBLEM IN YOUR HEAD, YOU MAY HAVE MENTAL PROBLEMS

IF YOU KEEP YOUR PROBLEM IN YOUR MOUTH, YOU MAY BECOME TALKATIVE

IF YOU PUT YOUR PROBLEM ON YOUR FACE, YOU MAY BECOME TALK OF THE TOWN

IF YOU KEEP YOUR PROBLEM IN YOUR HEART, YOU MAY HAVE HEART ATTACK

IF YOU KEEP YOUR PROBLEM IN YOUR OFFICE, YOU MAY LOSE YOUR JOB

IF YOU KEEP YOUR PROBLEM IN YOUR HOME, YOU MAY HAVE A BROKEN HOME

IF YOU KEEPYOUR PROBLEM IN YOUR MIND, YOU MAY DIE WITH IT

IF YOU IGNORE YOUR PROBLEM, YOU ARE ONLY POSPONING THE EVIL DAY

WHERE CAN YOU KEEP THE PROBLEMS, TAKE ALL THE PROBLEMS TO GOD IN PRAYERS

Wednesday, July 29, 2009

TIPS TO AVOID SPAM MAILS

Spam mails also known as "bulk" are unsolicited e-mail are unsolicited e-mail messahes sent to numerous recipients.

Besides cluttering one`s mail boxes, they could also be dangerous. Some are even fraudulent in that they steal computer/network information.

Interestingly, spam is something that can be very easily avoided/controlled using the following guidelines:

1. Be careful when entering your address. When some sites ask for your e-mails, you should be absolutely certain that the site is a safe one before providing it.

2. Don`t expose your address or release your address recklessly in a discussion forum. Addresses posted in a public location like open discussion forum are easily accessed by spammers.
3. If you receive a lot of mail advertisement, just un-subscribe from them. The way you do it is to click on the "unsubscribe" link in the mail. Most of the time, this link is written in tiny characters and not made obvious. Look out for it.
4. If you`re under attack from anonymous solicitation, set your spam filter to block the sender`s addresses and make sure you report as spam and/ or move those mails to the spam folder.
STEPS TO BLOCK SPAM SENDER`S ADDRESSES:
  • Highlight the Mail
  • Click Action Menu
  • Select Junk E-mail
  • Select Add sender to blocked sender list
Stay Safe by Staying Alert!!!

Friday, July 24, 2009

GOOD DIVIDEND

NUGGETS OF GOOD DIVIDEND

In the midst of ecstatic jubilation lies an air of grave uncertainty. Therefore, do not live in mad excitement of this present moment, try to foresee the future. If you don’t appreciate. You will always have everything you want in life if you will help enough other people get what they want. Find a way of making others happy and successful. People have a way of becoming what you encourage them to be.

There are three things that are more abundant in living

v Caring about others

v Daring for others and

v Sharing with others

There are two types of people in the world: Those who come into a room and say “Here I am!” and those who come in and say, “Ah there you are!” if you cannot win make the one ahead of you break the record.

“Jan Mckeithen”.

INVEST IN OTHERS: It pays a great dividend. Wise men are prepared by reason, men of understanding by experience, the most ignorant by necessity and beast by nature.

FACE YOUR FEARS: Because what you keep running away from keeps running after you. Keep your fears to yourself, but share your courage with others, because the silence of a night hears louder than the light of the day. So my dear think right, act right, it is what you think and do that makes you who you are.

DON`T WORRIES ABOUT ANYTHING: Instead, pray about everything, tell God your needs and don’t forget to thank him for his answer. I f you do this you will experience God’s peace, which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand.

GOOD DIVIDEND

NUGGETS OF GOOD DIVIDEND

In the midst of ecstatic jubilation lies an air of grave uncertainty. Therefore, do not live in mad excitement of this present moment, try to foresee the future. If you don’t appreciate. You will always have everything you want in life if you will help enough other people get what they want. Find a way of making others happy and successful. People have a way of becoming what you encourage them to be.

There are three things that are more abundant in living

v Caring about others

v Daring for others and

v Sharing with others

There are two types of people in the world: Those who come into a room and say “Here I am!” and those who come in and say, “Ah there you are!” if you cannot win make the one ahead of you break the record.

“Jan Mckeithen”.

INVEST IN OTHERS: It pays a great dividend. Wise men are prepared by reason, men of understanding by experience, the most ignorant by necessity and beast by nature.

FACE YOUR FEARS: Because what you keep running away from keeps running after you. Keep your fears to yourself, but share your courage with others, because the silence of a night hears louder than the light of the day. So my dear think right, act right, it is what you think and do that makes you who you are.

DON`T WORRIES ABOUT ANYTHING: Instead, pray about everything, tell God your needs and don’t forget to thank him for his answer. I f you do this you will experience God’s peace, which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand.

SUCCSESS

ABC TO Z OF ACHIEVING YOUR DREAMS

A: Avoid negative sources, people, places, things and habits

B: Believe in yourself

C: Consider things from every angle

D: Don`t give up and don’t give in

E: Enjoy life today, yesterday is gone and tomorrow may never come

F: Family and friends are hidden treasures, see them and enjoy their riches

G: Give more than you planned to

H: Hang onto your dreams

I: Ignore those who try to discourage you

J: Just do it

K: Keep trying no matter how hard it seems, it will get easier

L: Love yourself first and most

M: Make it happen

N: Never lie, cheat or steal, always strike a fair deal

O: Open your eyes and see things as the really are

P: Practice makes perfect

Q: Quitters never win and winners never quit

R: Read, study and learn about everything important in your life

S: Stop procrastinating

T: Take control of your own destiny

U: Understand yourself in order to better understand others

V: Visualize it

W: Want it more than anything

X: Xcellerate your efforts

Y: You are unique of all God’s creation. Nothing can replace you

Z: Zero in on your target and go for it!

Thursday, July 9, 2009

ABC FOR FRIENDSHIP

A: Always be honest with your friend (s)

B: Be there when they need you

C: Cheer them on as they strive towards excellence

D: Don’t look for their faults

E: Encourage and edify them in the lord

F: Forgive them without nursing grudges

G: Get together often-to pray and do other things that will improve

Your general well-being

H: Have confidence in them

I: Include them on your prayer list

J: Just listen, even if you don’t have the solution to their problem

K: Know their dreams and aspirations

L: Love them unconditionally

M: Make them feel special

N: Never forget them

O: Offer to help them, without waiting to be asked

P: Praise them honestly

Q: Quietly disagree when necessary

R: Reject unproven rumours about them

S: Say you’re sorry, when they1re offended

T: Take time to know their likes and dislikes

U: Use good judgment

V: Vouch for them verify rumours

W: Wish them well

X: X-ray yourself first before counseling or correcting them

Y: Your words count, so measure them carefully

Z: Zip your mouth even when told a secret

Tuesday, June 16, 2009

Read and reflect...

It was the first day of the session and a new direct entry student, Mensah, a Ghanaian, joined the class in one of Nigeria’s universities.

The Lecturer said, “Let's begin by reviewing some Nigerian history.”

The lecturer asked who said, “I shall return to die in the land of my fathers.”

She saw a sea of blank faces, except for Mensah, who had his hand up.

Mensah replied: “King Jaja of Opobo, 1875”

"Very good!'' said the lecturer. Then she asked again, who said, “The land use act will feed the nation?”

Again, no response except from Mensah: “Obasanjo, 1976."

The lecturer snapped at the class; "Class, you all should be ashamed. Mensah, who is new to our country, knows more about its history than you do."

The lecturer heard a loud whisper: “ Ghana must go”

"Who said that?” she demanded Mensah put his hand up, “Buhari, 1984.”

At that point, a student in the back scornfully said; “Hmmm, you think you are smart?”

The lecturer glared and asked; “All right! Now, who said that?”

Again, Mensah said, “Babangida to Abiola, 1992.”

Now furious, another student yelled; “Oh yeah! Eat this!”

Mensah jumped out of his chair waving his hand and shouting to the lecturer, “Indian mistress giving apple to Abacha, 1998!”

Now, with almost mob hysteria, someone said; “You little shit. If you say anything else, I'll kill you.”

Mensah frantically yelled at the top of his voice; “Chris Uba to Ngige, 2004!''

The Lecturer fainted, and as the class gathered around her on the floor, someone said; “Oh shit, we're in BIG trouble now!”

Mensah whispered; “Chimaroke Nnamani, James Ibori, Ayodele Fayose, Lucky Igbinedon, 2007”

Now, if someone asks you, “Who sent this e-mail to you?”

Tuesday, June 9, 2009

Eyes of a child


One day a father of a very wealthy family took his son on a trip
to the country with the firm purpose of showing his son how poor people
live. They spent a couple of days and nights on the farm of what would
be considered a very poor family. On their return from their trip, the father asked his son, "How Was trip?"

"It was great, Dad."

"Did you see how poor people live?" the father asked.

"Oh yes," said the son.

"So, tell me, what did you learn from the trip?" asked the father.

The son answered: "I saw that we have one dog and they had four.
We have a pool that reaches to the middle of our garden and they
have a river that has no end. We have imported lanterns in our garden and they have the stars at night. Our patio reaches to the front yard and they have the whole horizon. We have a small piece of land to live on and they have fields that go beyond our sight. We have servants who serve us, but they serve others
We buy our food, but they grow theirs. We have walls around our property to protect us, they have friends to protect them. The boy's father was speechless.
Then his son added, "Thanks, Dad, for showing me how poor we are."

Isn't perspective a wonderful thing? Makes you wonder what would
happen if we all gave thanks for everything we have, instead of worrying about what we don't have. Appreciate every single thing you have, especially your friends!

Please pass this page on to friends and acquaintances to help
them refresh their perspective and appreciation.

"Life is too short and friends are too few."

45 lessons life taught me



1. Life isn't fair,but it's still good.

2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.

3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

4. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and parents will. Stay in touch
.

5. Pay off your credit cards every month.

6. You don't have to win every argument.Agree to disagree.

7. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.

8. It's OK to get angry with God. He can take it.

9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.

10. When it comes to chocolate,resistanc e is futile.

11. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.

12. It's OK to let your children see you cry.

13. Don't compare your life to others.You have no idea what their journey is all about.

14. If a relationship has to be a secret,you shouldn't be in it.

15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don't worry; God never blinks.

16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.

17. Get rid of anything that isn't useful,beautiful or joyful.

18. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.

19. It's never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.

20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer.

21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.

22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.

23. Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wear purple.

24. The most important sex organ is the brain.

25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.

26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words'In five years, will this matter?'

27. Always choose life.

28. Forgive everyone everything.

29. What other people think of you is none of your business.

30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.

31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

32. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

33. Believe in miracles.

34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn't do.

35. Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.

36. Growing old beats the alternative -- dying young.

37. Your children get only one childhood.

38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.

40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's,we'd grab ours back.

41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

42. The best is yet to come.

43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

44. Yield.

45. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift."

Saturday, June 6, 2009

WONDERS

A mother of twins has had a shock after doctors revealed that her 11-month-old boys do not have the same father. Mia Washington decided to get some expert advice when she and her partner noticed that twins Justin and Jordan had different facial features. Paternity tests then revealed what had happened - two eggs had been fertilised by two different sperm and there was a 99.99% chance the twins had different dads. Doctors at the DNA lab in Dallas , Texas had never seen such a result. Mia later admitted she had had an affair and got pregnant by two different men at the same time. She told TV channel Fox 4: "Out of all people in America and of all people in the world, it had to happen to me. I'm very shocked." Clear Diagnostics president Genny Thibodeaux said: "It is very crazy. Most people don't believe it can happen, but it can."

GOOD ADVICE

Tips for a successful marriage

Issues on fidelity

Women who easily suspect their husbands are insecure. A woman who is not secure in her husband's love will feel he must be showing the love to someone else- real or imagined. Women need reassurance.

A woman goes through many changes in life especially physically and emotionally. Pre and post-natal situations, menopause and age all add up to change the physical appearance of a woman and constant reassurance from her man makes her secure and also makes her feel she is still as attractive as when her husband fell in love and proposed. When this reassurance is not forthcoming, there is a tendency to begin to think the spouse is directing these to someone else when he doesn't come home early or when what he says doesn’t add up.

Indices of extra-marital affair and how can it be checked in a relationship

They are lies, unexplained outburst of anger, highly irritable behaviour, verbal or physical abuse, etc. They can be checked by constant communication between couples. Couples must learn to work hard to keep the love that brought them together alive. They must not neglect one another and make efforts to create time out of their busy schedule for each other. In addition to these, they must pray together and for one another. Prophesy into each other's lives and trust God for each other.

Issues on income

To withhold such important information is very dangerous. In fact, it is better to give full access to the funds otherwise the man will believe she earns more than she actually does and make unreasonable demands. Also, a man who is financially crippled feels less of a man and not in control of the home so will be prone to lash out in different ways like verbal or physical abuse in order to gain control.

Financial independence

A woman does not need financial independence from her spouse. Her role is to support him in everyway possible way.

Advise on wife’s full control of the financial resources of the family

Yes and no. There should be joint access and joint control of the account. The message is that there shouldn't be any restriction or barrier for either party. They come into agreement. Two heads are better than one.

Can a woman be in charge of the family purse or account?

"In-charge" is not the right word for the woman. The man should always be in-charge. The role of a woman is that of a custodian. The man is the head and the woman the neck.

How a man can manage a wife who is extremely possessive and demanding

A wife who is never satisfied and always asking for more probably believes there is more where what is given came from. Such a woman should be made the "custodian" of the family purse. It will be difficult and ridiculous to ask for more when you are aware of all there is.

Advice to a woman who insists that her husband must provide everything

Such a woman is not of God. The main reason a woman was created was to be a helpmeet to her husband. God saw that it was not good for the man to be alone hence the woman. A helpmeet is to meet her husband, not halfway, three quarter way or one quarter way but to meet him at any level as long as he has made attempts or efforts to find solutions to family problems.

A woman who insists her husband must do everything will soon lose him either to death or to another woman. There will be no use for her in the home as she is not contributing and will certainly not be missed if she is no longer in the home.

How couples can build trust and transparency in their relationship

Learn to be open to one another. Speak the truth without being hurtful. Refrain from telling lies and appreciate one another.

What are the benefits?

If they have a loving and lovely union, the couple will have common goals and will achieve a lot.

Dangers, if neglected

The dangers are strife, backbiting, separation or even divorce. There is the tendency of the children becoming wayward and disobedient.

Advice to those having problems in this area

The issues should be addressed. Do not assume it will go away by not speaking about them. There has to be a rededication and an effort to renew trust and transparency. It's a two-way thing. One party has to resolve to rebuild trust and transparency while the other learns to believe that the former will change for good and give love a chance again.

Saturday, May 30, 2009

HAVING A MALE CHILD

HI,
Is your marriage on the verge of breaking up because you don’t have a male child for your Husband?
DISCOVER HOW YOU CAN GIVE BIRTH TO A BOY CHILD OR A GIRL CHILD EVEN IF YOU HAVE HAD MANY GIRLS OR BOYS BEFORE!
How wonderful will it be if in the next 9 months, you give birth to a boy child!

Dear friend,
I have a confession to make. This is the most important letter ever written and it will do you so much good to read to the end! Today marks the end of sorrows, worries and pressures in your life. Say Amen… Guaranteed! Why? Because I am about to reveal to you the secrets of giving birth to a boy or a girl.

Surprised? I know that you will like to ask me this question: ‘Are you God Almighty to determine the sex of children?’ and I ask, ‘How did man come up with CLONNING of Humans?’ Somebody, your replica. You have everything in common- the looks, the way you talk, walk, eat, everything about you is the same with the fake you. The only difference is the spirit inside of you.

More and more discoveries are made every now and then. Researches upon researches are being carried out for more discoveries. Therefore, if you can understand what knowledge means, I know you won’t find it difficult also to accept the fact that it is very possible to choose the sex of your child(ren), because the discovery has been made.
God has done so much for man that He bestowed on man a great intellectual ability and capacity. Adam is a perfect example. He gave names to all the animals upon the surface of the Earth and he did not make any mistake whatsoever in naming the animals twice. God particularly saw this and commended his effort in naming uncountable numbers of animals. A reputable man of God once said, “God gave you brain to give Him rest”. We sometimes neglect the act of thinking deep to proffer solutions to our problems and challenges, which don’t even require us praying. Why? God handed to us all we will ever need to be what we want to be the day we were born.

I want you to know this very fact today that, the major difference between the rich and the poor, our successes and our failures, the mighty men and the lowly men is due to one singular word known as ‘KNOWLEDGE’. Knowledge is like holding the right key, because not every key would open the door however how you try, but the right key would always open it. Knowledge delivers and sets free as established in the Bible: My people are destroyed for lack of Knowledge.

In
Africa and most importantly in Nigeria, many homes have been destroyed because there are no male children except the female children. Many husbands have been pressured to divorce their wives because they didn’t give birth to male children. A lot of the so called husbands have also resorted to having extra marital affairs because they wanted male children badly. Other men have been bold enough to bring in additional wives into their matrimonial homes in the quest to having male children. Some of these actions have actually produced the desired results while some didn’t even work at all.

My name is Ogunleye Kehinde Babajide. I was born in the mid seventies and while I was growing up and also being able to differentiate my right from the left, I have seen so many things under Heaven.

I cannot recall how many wives that have been sent packing or divorced because they couldn’t give birth to boys for their husbands. These I witnessed myself but not told! Besides, many husbands have been termed to be lazy singularly because it was believed that their wives were stronger during their acts of love making and as a result, female children were given birth to. This situation is even better because it is not as fierce as other situations.

In-laws on the other hand don’t help the situation. Many father and mother in-laws have personally brought their sons another wives from the village because of their desperation to have male children at all cost which the wives at home could not give birth to. The worst happens when the wives in-house disapprove of the new developments. She is either sent off or left with the choice of accepting the new wife.

Again, there are many instances where it is until after the death of the husband that the children from the other wife begin to show up as heirs having the same rights even higher than the children of the legitimate wife. The stories are endless as you will agree with me. There are other ones that probably you know too, that I haven’t heard about or yet to see.
Hey, forget it! I’m not trying to sell you a thing here. If you don’t have a challenge in this area or you don’t know anyone who has this challenge or you are not absolutely ready to bear a boy or a girl child, there is no need to read any further. I write this today only, and I repeat, only for those who are ready to bear or give birth to a boy child in the next 9 months. Yes, I mean 9 months.

Due to insatiable urge for knowledge, man has become eager whether rightly or wrongly to know or want to determine the sex of his child or children in the course of reproduction. The truth here is that, preference is given to a boy child in the
Africa culture even though, God created both sexes equal ( the boy and the girl are equal ). They were both created in the His own image and after His likeness. However, man is never satisfied due to his limited knowledge or even the lack of it.

Remember I said the other time that, the situation is only a mere challenge. A mere challenge solely because it is temporal and there are solution(s) meant for it which you are not lucky yet to have access to. Somebody once said that, ‘to every challenge is a solution’, and I said the other time also that, ‘ today marks the end of sorrows, worries and pressures in your life’.

If you are ready to give birth to a child of your dream especially a boy child in the next 9 months, then I have good news for you. I’m ready to show you my secrets of choosing your child’s sex. The secrets are so automatic that there is no way it won’t deliver to you the sex of the child you desire whether male or female. As a result, your mockers will begin to envy you. I have created an underground package guaranteed to take you by the hand and guide you on how to give birth to the boy child or the girl child you have been dreaming about.

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• You can choose to have all the male or female children or the mixture of both as you desire.
• Your husband will not be pressured into divorcing you as a wife. I have seen three different wives being divorced by their husbands because they didn’t give birth to male children.
• As a woman, your husband won’t think of engaging in extra marital affair because you don’t have a boy child. Remember, I’m talking from experience.
• Due to the point raised above, you avoid the risk of being infected with HIV/AIDS through the engagement of extra marital affair from your husband.
• The problems associated with a broken home are averted. Your home becomes the real home. I have seen husbands and wives that lived together but their homes were broken. There were no peace, love and harmony from the homes, but just living together. Imagine the pains and argony their children would go through.
• You will experience the real love and peace from your husband.
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Okay! Okay! How much is this awesome package going to cost you? Let me point it out here that:-

• You will be learning first hand with a respected information marketer.
• I swear under oath and declare that should my secrets fail, never hesitate to report me to the Police and the EFCC.
What this implies is that, if I tell you to pay N30,000 for the package, then I’m justified. But I won’t do that. I actually want to help a lot of people and I know they won’t be able to afford it at that amount. Neither am I requesting for N25,000 or even N20,000. I will still come down.

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ORDERING INSTRUCTIONS
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Your order today will let me prove to you that my secret works. Don’t wait any longer because you’ve waited longer enough. Most people will rather waste more than that amount to order my guide on fast food in a week. I am looking forward to seeing you happy.

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Your Friend,
Ogunleye Kehinde Babajide

PS: Place your order and let me prove it’s what you’ve been missing. I’m so confident of it that I will give you 100% of your money back if it did not work. You have absolutely nothing to lose.
PPS: Remember we’ve got only 20 slots on offer. Once taken, no more. Don’t miss out!
PPPS: Also remember my vow. Report me to the Police and the EFCC if you don’t give birth to the child of your dream with my simple yet powerful secrets. I stand by my challenge.
PPPPS: Over 200,000 people are reading this letter right now, yet we have only 20 slots on offer. That means, 199,980 people will miss out.