1. Not Answering the Phone:
When a man doesn't answer the phone, especially at certain times of the day, it causes suspicion in a woman’s mind.
2. Walk Your Talk:
If a man says he is going to do something, then he needs to make sure that he does it. Don’t give empty promises.
3. Learn to say “I Don't Know”:
When it comes to a mans ego, they cant stand to say “I DON'T KNOW!!!” Women cant stand when a man thinks he knows EVERYTHING!!! Its okay to “Google it” if you don't know.
4. Hogging the Remote:
When a man just takes complete control over the TV, it’s a simple sign that a man is not interested in the things that his woman likes. Watching sports is cool but not 24\7.
5. Bringing Up Weight:
A woman doesn't need her man to constantly remind her that she needs to hit the gym. A woman realizes that she has gained a few pounds when the 1st pound hits. Also by a man always bringing up a woman's weight, it makes it seem that all he cares about is the way she looks and not what she has to offer.
Top 5 Things Women Do to Destroy Relationships:
1. The “WHERE ARE YOU” question:
When a woman calls a man and the first thing she ask him is “WHERE ARE YOU???” That is annoying. If the woman is asking for a specific reason then thats understandable but to ask a man who all the time shows that a woman doesn't trust her man when he’s not with her.
2. The “Who You Talking To” question:
When a man is on the phone and this question is asked, men find this to be very rude. Asking this question co-insides with the above question, it shows that a woman doesn't trust her man and makes a woman appear to be nosy.
3. Nagging:
When a woman starts nagging about nothing. If a man hasn’t done what you want him to do and you nag him about it, it’s really not going to get done once a woman starts nagging.
4. Holding a Grudge:
When a woman holds a grudge and then tries to bring up all the old stuff in a new argument, that drives a man crazy and makes him non-responsive.
5. Allowing a Man Time to Breathe:
Men need time by themselves, to be with friends and family. Men need to feel independent. When a woman doesn’t give a man time to himself then he feels suffocated.
DISCUSS…
Tuesday, March 30, 2010
Wednesday, March 10, 2010
A Different Approach to Fasting...
Fasts have a tendency to be oriented towards things like
giving up food or television.
But there are many other creative ways
we can welcome Jesus' healing touch.
Here are suggestions you may want to consider.
1. Fast from anger and hate
Give your family and love ones an extra dose of care and love each day. Leviticus 19:18
2. Fast from judging others.
Before making judgments, recall how Jesus overlooks our faults
Matthew 7:1
3. Fast from discouragement.
Hold on to Jesus promise that he has a perfect plan for your life.
Jeremiah 29:11
4. Fast from complaining.
When you find yourself about to complain, close your eyes and
recall some of the little moments of joy Jesus has given you.
Philippians 4:6
5. Fast from resentment or bitterness!
Work on forgiving those who may have hurt you. Jesus forgives us. Psalm 103:3
6. Fast from spending too much money.
Try to reduce your spending by ten percent and give those saving to the poor. The Lord said that he will bless us, so we can be a blessing to others. Genesis 12:2
Wishing you all peace. love and happiness during lent/as you fast.
Smile - Jesus loves you
giving up food or television.
But there are many other creative ways
we can welcome Jesus' healing touch.
Here are suggestions you may want to consider.
1. Fast from anger and hate
Give your family and love ones an extra dose of care and love each day. Leviticus 19:18
2. Fast from judging others.
Before making judgments, recall how Jesus overlooks our faults
Matthew 7:1
3. Fast from discouragement.
Hold on to Jesus promise that he has a perfect plan for your life.
Jeremiah 29:11
4. Fast from complaining.
When you find yourself about to complain, close your eyes and
recall some of the little moments of joy Jesus has given you.
Philippians 4:6
5. Fast from resentment or bitterness!
Work on forgiving those who may have hurt you. Jesus forgives us. Psalm 103:3
6. Fast from spending too much money.
Try to reduce your spending by ten percent and give those saving to the poor. The Lord said that he will bless us, so we can be a blessing to others. Genesis 12:2
Wishing you all peace. love and happiness during lent/as you fast.
Smile - Jesus loves you
Wednesday, February 17, 2010
10 THINGS EVERYWOMAN SHOULD DEMAND FROM A MAN
(1)PATIENCE, GENEROSITY AND CONSIDERATION.
These are the triplets of kindness, each one of equal importance. Patience means he can deal with tension calmly and productively, looking at life's challenges as opportunities to teach and to learn. Generosity of mind, spirit, heart, wealth, time – anything you want to share (even dessert!) – your guy must want to share equally with you. And finally, your man should be considerate of your feelings, your time and your goals. He should be considerate of how his decisions impact you.
(2)A SAFE PLACE TO BE 100-PERCENT YOU.
In a healthy relationship, you should feel safe, liberated and loved enough to be who you are – all the dimensions of your being – all the time, figuratively unclothed. So if that means you are a buttoned-up badass by day and someone who dances around singing into a hairbrush by night, so be it. A forever-guy will not only allow it, he will love it.
(3)UTTER ADORATION.
Inside and out, every quirk, every "flaw", every everything about you should be understood and adored by your man. Never should you feel the tendency to be a chameleon, adapting to what you think he wants you to be. You should already be everything he needs. A good guy will go the extra mile to make you feel great about your insecurities.
(4)FREEDOM.
Freedom is an excellent indicator that your man trusts you. Freedom comes in many forms – freedom to have a girls-only weekend in Mexico, freedom to explore a new career, freedom to be alone – all of which circle back to your man trusting your decisions and giving you space for your own growth.
(5)BUTTERFLIES, STILL.
When apart for a few hours or a few weeks, for no pinpointable reason, reconnecting with your man ought to give you the warm-and-fuzzies, even after countless kisses, unlimited hand-holds and hugs galore. Maintaining the butterfly feeling is proof that your guy is putting forth the effort to keep romance alive.
(6)GREAT intimacy.
There is no excuse for a man not deliver in the bedroom, if he wants to. After all, there are plenty of tutorials in the form of indecency, magazine how tos or girlfriends willing to be tour guides to help them get it right. Living a sexually unsatisfied life isn't living at all. If a man isn't willing to put forth the effort to learn what it takes to turn you on, it is time to turn him off.
(7)PRIORITIZATION.
No matter how in-demand your man is, you should be No. 1 on his speed dial, and never should he bypass a call from you for someone else. It is key for you to know that you can count on him for anything and everything, always. This doesn't mean that he shouldn't have a life -- he should. It just means that he should be looking out for yours.
(8)BELLY LAUGHS.
While your man doesn't need to be a stand-up comedian, he should be able to spike your days with a dose of laughter. Life can be hard, and your guy needs to be someone who is dedicated to turning your cloudy days blindingly sunny. We all know laughter is the best medicine, and having it as a primary ingredient in a relationship recipe is critical to its short- and long-term health.
(9) TO FEEL HOT!
Assuming you are putting in the effort to maintain your appearance, it is your man's duty to lust after you – to remind you that you've got it going on. From complimenting you on an outfit to noticing a new haircut to a for-no-reason-at-all "you are so beautiful" reminder message, your guy should make you feel gorgeous.
(10) A healthy relationship begins with two people who come together already completed, mature and ready for the great responsibilities that come with love. Simply, it is not a woman's job to raise her man. Your Mr. Right should not rely on you to be his life mechanic -- you're not there to fix his financial, psychological or emotional problems. He needs to have healed his mistakes and hurts of the past and now be solid and whole so that he is able to face new challenges confidently when they arise, as well as be a strong support system for you.
Tack these demands onto your mirror and use them as affirmations. The right man will come along when you have the courage to stand your ground. Hey, it's your life and your every happiness, right?
These are the triplets of kindness, each one of equal importance. Patience means he can deal with tension calmly and productively, looking at life's challenges as opportunities to teach and to learn. Generosity of mind, spirit, heart, wealth, time – anything you want to share (even dessert!) – your guy must want to share equally with you. And finally, your man should be considerate of your feelings, your time and your goals. He should be considerate of how his decisions impact you.
(2)A SAFE PLACE TO BE 100-PERCENT YOU.
In a healthy relationship, you should feel safe, liberated and loved enough to be who you are – all the dimensions of your being – all the time, figuratively unclothed. So if that means you are a buttoned-up badass by day and someone who dances around singing into a hairbrush by night, so be it. A forever-guy will not only allow it, he will love it.
(3)UTTER ADORATION.
Inside and out, every quirk, every "flaw", every everything about you should be understood and adored by your man. Never should you feel the tendency to be a chameleon, adapting to what you think he wants you to be. You should already be everything he needs. A good guy will go the extra mile to make you feel great about your insecurities.
(4)FREEDOM.
Freedom is an excellent indicator that your man trusts you. Freedom comes in many forms – freedom to have a girls-only weekend in Mexico, freedom to explore a new career, freedom to be alone – all of which circle back to your man trusting your decisions and giving you space for your own growth.
(5)BUTTERFLIES, STILL.
When apart for a few hours or a few weeks, for no pinpointable reason, reconnecting with your man ought to give you the warm-and-fuzzies, even after countless kisses, unlimited hand-holds and hugs galore. Maintaining the butterfly feeling is proof that your guy is putting forth the effort to keep romance alive.
(6)GREAT intimacy.
There is no excuse for a man not deliver in the bedroom, if he wants to. After all, there are plenty of tutorials in the form of indecency, magazine how tos or girlfriends willing to be tour guides to help them get it right. Living a sexually unsatisfied life isn't living at all. If a man isn't willing to put forth the effort to learn what it takes to turn you on, it is time to turn him off.
(7)PRIORITIZATION.
No matter how in-demand your man is, you should be No. 1 on his speed dial, and never should he bypass a call from you for someone else. It is key for you to know that you can count on him for anything and everything, always. This doesn't mean that he shouldn't have a life -- he should. It just means that he should be looking out for yours.
(8)BELLY LAUGHS.
While your man doesn't need to be a stand-up comedian, he should be able to spike your days with a dose of laughter. Life can be hard, and your guy needs to be someone who is dedicated to turning your cloudy days blindingly sunny. We all know laughter is the best medicine, and having it as a primary ingredient in a relationship recipe is critical to its short- and long-term health.
(9) TO FEEL HOT!
Assuming you are putting in the effort to maintain your appearance, it is your man's duty to lust after you – to remind you that you've got it going on. From complimenting you on an outfit to noticing a new haircut to a for-no-reason-at-all "you are so beautiful" reminder message, your guy should make you feel gorgeous.
(10) A healthy relationship begins with two people who come together already completed, mature and ready for the great responsibilities that come with love. Simply, it is not a woman's job to raise her man. Your Mr. Right should not rely on you to be his life mechanic -- you're not there to fix his financial, psychological or emotional problems. He needs to have healed his mistakes and hurts of the past and now be solid and whole so that he is able to face new challenges confidently when they arise, as well as be a strong support system for you.
Tack these demands onto your mirror and use them as affirmations. The right man will come along when you have the courage to stand your ground. Hey, it's your life and your every happiness, right?
Thursday, January 28, 2010
TIPS THAT WILL HELP YOU IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP
APPRECIATE HER:
It takes just a little effort to win a woman’s heart. A woman wants to be appreciated always. No matter how much you spend on your woman, she will never be satisfied until you give her that which her heart longs for. Look at her every morning before you step out of the house and tell her how beautiful she is. Even if you think she is not, I know there is one particular attribute she has that won your heart.
Yours may be a long distance relationship, thank God for GSM. She wants to hear your voice last thing at night, she wants you to talk her to sleep and wake her up the next morning to sweet words. This is the easiest way to win a woman’s heart and have her go the extra mile for you. Don’t let familiarity quench the fire and don’t be deceived into believing she doesn’t care.
SPEND TIME WITH HER:
Give her time. I understand things are getting tougher. Men go through a lot of pressure to make ends meet. Traffic situation in Lagos is getting worse by the day but guys, all these are not good enough reason for your failure to spend time with the woman you love. She needs your time not just the goodies.
GIVE:
Be generous with the woman you claim to love. Most guys believe in just words. Guys, love gives. For you to be a good lover, you must be able to give according to your capability. Make that woman the envy of her friends. I am not saying you should go beyond your capability just to make her happy. She is your woman and knows your worth. Love gives.
REMEMBER:
Don’t forget her birthday, marriage anniversary and other important dates. Close early from work on that day and take her to a place she has never been before. Make it a memorable one, after all, she remembers yours. You can get friends for a surprising party for her.
Boy, stop coming up with the excuse of leaving town on an official assignment during Valentine season. Some guys make sure the official assignment starts a week before Valentine simply because they want to cheat on their wives and girlfriends. If you don’t like her look, get her to change it. This has led a lot of women into unfaithfulness.
RESPECT HER:
Make her feel on top among friends. We know you are the man but please don’t put it on her face. Don’t shout at her in public, that hurts a woman deeply. Guys, it is wrong discussing your woman with friends and relations. If you must, sing her praise. It is wrong gathering in that beer parlour to talk about her.
CORRECT HER IN LOVE:
Women are weaker vessels, so says the Holy Bible. Learn to treat her as one. She is bound to make grievous mistakes, pardon her and put her on the right track. She may be the nagging type, love her. According to the Holy Bible, Christ loved us unconditionally and Apostle Paul in Ephesians 6 tells men to love their wives so.
ACCEPT HER:
I have seen a lot of men dating a girl without wanting to have anything to do with her job, friends and family. Guys, you must make that girl you claim to love dearly feel accepted. You must be ready to discuss her job, accept her friends and if there are ones you don’t like, gradually make her see reason. But her family, you must accept. Why would any responsible man or woman stop the partner’s family from visiting?
Don’t try to make her change her job against her wish. I have seen men try to force a lady out of her job due to selfish reasons. Ninety-nine percent of the motive behind it is complex and insecurity. You may try to make her feel the job is too stressful for her but boy, we know why you did that. Inasmuch as you have to protect your own (girlfriend or wife), you don’t have to let your emotions rule all the time.
TRUST HER:
So many men have lost the woman they cherish so much simply because they chose to believe their friends rather than her. When you love a woman, you are bound to be jealous but please, keep it under control. Don’t allow the discussions or experiences of your friends ruin your relationship. Trust your woman, believe her. Some girls have had to walk out of relationships just because their man refused to believe them.
AVOID BATTERING:
Never raise your hands against her. Cowards beat women. If you want to show us how strong you are, please find men like you in the stadium. Some men even go to the point of hitting their girlfriends and wives in public. That is just a proof of your level of irresponsibility. No matter how much a woman provokes you, never raise a hand on her. Yes, I agree with you, women can get you to the point where you lose control of yourself. But there are men like you handling it the right way. There are better ways to make a woman sober.
INVOLVE HER:
Involve her in your decision making. Don’t rule out her ideas as irrelevant. Women are most times more intelligent than men and if you are blessed to have an intelligent woman around you, please use her. Let the woman in your life know you and what you are worth. Refuse to believe people when they say she will kill you and take your properties.
Most Nigerian widows suffer at the death of their husbands simply because the man trusted his brothers and parents more than his wife and children. Oga, why would you leave your wife and children to make your brother the administrator of your will? No matter how much you trust him, your children and wife will suffer should anything happen.
FLAUNT HER:
Guys, don’t make your girl feel you are not proud of her. Introduce her to friends and relations, don’t walk far behind her in public. Volunteer to drive her to the spa or supermarket. If you are proud of your woman, let us know you are.
GIVE HER A BREAK:
Allow her to travel or sometimes have a time-out with friends far away from you. Don’t make her lose her individuality because she is with you. Don’t try to force her to become what she is not. A lot of women turn to zombies when they have their man around but when you see them with friends, you see the lively part of them. Let that girl go, if she is yours she will remain yours. Love isn’t about bondage. Don’t let low self-esteem ruin your relationship.
If Nigerian men can decide to start treating women as individuals and adults, things will get better in the society. This issue of freedom is a very important one. I have seen that the women that find it difficult surviving as widows are those who were never allowed by their husbands to be themselves.
It takes just a little effort to win a woman’s heart. A woman wants to be appreciated always. No matter how much you spend on your woman, she will never be satisfied until you give her that which her heart longs for. Look at her every morning before you step out of the house and tell her how beautiful she is. Even if you think she is not, I know there is one particular attribute she has that won your heart.
Yours may be a long distance relationship, thank God for GSM. She wants to hear your voice last thing at night, she wants you to talk her to sleep and wake her up the next morning to sweet words. This is the easiest way to win a woman’s heart and have her go the extra mile for you. Don’t let familiarity quench the fire and don’t be deceived into believing she doesn’t care.
SPEND TIME WITH HER:
Give her time. I understand things are getting tougher. Men go through a lot of pressure to make ends meet. Traffic situation in Lagos is getting worse by the day but guys, all these are not good enough reason for your failure to spend time with the woman you love. She needs your time not just the goodies.
GIVE:
Be generous with the woman you claim to love. Most guys believe in just words. Guys, love gives. For you to be a good lover, you must be able to give according to your capability. Make that woman the envy of her friends. I am not saying you should go beyond your capability just to make her happy. She is your woman and knows your worth. Love gives.
REMEMBER:
Don’t forget her birthday, marriage anniversary and other important dates. Close early from work on that day and take her to a place she has never been before. Make it a memorable one, after all, she remembers yours. You can get friends for a surprising party for her.
Boy, stop coming up with the excuse of leaving town on an official assignment during Valentine season. Some guys make sure the official assignment starts a week before Valentine simply because they want to cheat on their wives and girlfriends. If you don’t like her look, get her to change it. This has led a lot of women into unfaithfulness.
RESPECT HER:
Make her feel on top among friends. We know you are the man but please don’t put it on her face. Don’t shout at her in public, that hurts a woman deeply. Guys, it is wrong discussing your woman with friends and relations. If you must, sing her praise. It is wrong gathering in that beer parlour to talk about her.
CORRECT HER IN LOVE:
Women are weaker vessels, so says the Holy Bible. Learn to treat her as one. She is bound to make grievous mistakes, pardon her and put her on the right track. She may be the nagging type, love her. According to the Holy Bible, Christ loved us unconditionally and Apostle Paul in Ephesians 6 tells men to love their wives so.
ACCEPT HER:
I have seen a lot of men dating a girl without wanting to have anything to do with her job, friends and family. Guys, you must make that girl you claim to love dearly feel accepted. You must be ready to discuss her job, accept her friends and if there are ones you don’t like, gradually make her see reason. But her family, you must accept. Why would any responsible man or woman stop the partner’s family from visiting?
Don’t try to make her change her job against her wish. I have seen men try to force a lady out of her job due to selfish reasons. Ninety-nine percent of the motive behind it is complex and insecurity. You may try to make her feel the job is too stressful for her but boy, we know why you did that. Inasmuch as you have to protect your own (girlfriend or wife), you don’t have to let your emotions rule all the time.
TRUST HER:
So many men have lost the woman they cherish so much simply because they chose to believe their friends rather than her. When you love a woman, you are bound to be jealous but please, keep it under control. Don’t allow the discussions or experiences of your friends ruin your relationship. Trust your woman, believe her. Some girls have had to walk out of relationships just because their man refused to believe them.
AVOID BATTERING:
Never raise your hands against her. Cowards beat women. If you want to show us how strong you are, please find men like you in the stadium. Some men even go to the point of hitting their girlfriends and wives in public. That is just a proof of your level of irresponsibility. No matter how much a woman provokes you, never raise a hand on her. Yes, I agree with you, women can get you to the point where you lose control of yourself. But there are men like you handling it the right way. There are better ways to make a woman sober.
INVOLVE HER:
Involve her in your decision making. Don’t rule out her ideas as irrelevant. Women are most times more intelligent than men and if you are blessed to have an intelligent woman around you, please use her. Let the woman in your life know you and what you are worth. Refuse to believe people when they say she will kill you and take your properties.
Most Nigerian widows suffer at the death of their husbands simply because the man trusted his brothers and parents more than his wife and children. Oga, why would you leave your wife and children to make your brother the administrator of your will? No matter how much you trust him, your children and wife will suffer should anything happen.
FLAUNT HER:
Guys, don’t make your girl feel you are not proud of her. Introduce her to friends and relations, don’t walk far behind her in public. Volunteer to drive her to the spa or supermarket. If you are proud of your woman, let us know you are.
GIVE HER A BREAK:
Allow her to travel or sometimes have a time-out with friends far away from you. Don’t make her lose her individuality because she is with you. Don’t try to force her to become what she is not. A lot of women turn to zombies when they have their man around but when you see them with friends, you see the lively part of them. Let that girl go, if she is yours she will remain yours. Love isn’t about bondage. Don’t let low self-esteem ruin your relationship.
If Nigerian men can decide to start treating women as individuals and adults, things will get better in the society. This issue of freedom is a very important one. I have seen that the women that find it difficult surviving as widows are those who were never allowed by their husbands to be themselves.
Wednesday, January 27, 2010
HELP YOURSELF
Health:
1. Drink plenty of water..
2. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dine like a beggar.
3. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants...
4. Live with the 3 E's -- Energy, Enthusiasm and Empathy
5. Make time to play.
6. Play more games
7. Read more books than you did in 2009 .
8. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day
9. Sleep for 7 hours.
10. Take a 10-30 minutes walk daily. And while you walk, smile.
Personality:
11.. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
12. Don't have negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present
moment.
13. Don't over do. Keep your limits.
14. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
15. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip.
16. Dream more while you are awake
17. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need..
18. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner with His/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present
happiness.
19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.
20. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.
21. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
22. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and
fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
23.... Smile and laugh more.
24. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree...
Society:
25. Call your family often.
26. Each day give something good to others.
27. Forgive everyone for everything..
28. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6.
29. Try to make at least three people smile each day..
30. What other people think of you is none of your business.
31. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick.. Your friends will. Stay in touch.
1. Drink plenty of water..
2. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dine like a beggar.
3. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants...
4. Live with the 3 E's -- Energy, Enthusiasm and Empathy
5. Make time to play.
6. Play more games
7. Read more books than you did in 2009 .
8. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day
9. Sleep for 7 hours.
10. Take a 10-30 minutes walk daily. And while you walk, smile.
Personality:
11.. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
12. Don't have negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present
moment.
13. Don't over do. Keep your limits.
14. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
15. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip.
16. Dream more while you are awake
17. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need..
18. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner with His/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present
happiness.
19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.
20. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.
21. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
22. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and
fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
23.... Smile and laugh more.
24. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree...
Society:
25. Call your family often.
26. Each day give something good to others.
27. Forgive everyone for everything..
28. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6.
29. Try to make at least three people smile each day..
30. What other people think of you is none of your business.
31. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick.. Your friends will. Stay in touch.
Wednesday, December 9, 2009
Rejoinder to The Leadership Lesons from Tiger Wood's Recent Pains !!!!
1. Whatever happened to Tiger Wood happened in the past and it is going to happen again in the future. Everyone knows the difference between right and wrong and we know that there are consequences for our actions and inactions. The essence of my last encyclical and this present one is for us to look for possible good that might come out of his tragedy and see a glimmer of light. Perhaps, by reading this encyclicals, others might avoid the same pitfalls and other may gain some hope in forgiveness from God even when folks may never forgive or forget. Like King David of Israel, whose human failure was made open to all, his rebound would be the greatest legacy from this greatest golfer that ever lived.
2. However, we must learn that all sins are equal before God and that we must never judge other people too harshly because we are not without sin. We do not know what we would have done if given the same sets of circumstances as Tiger Wood. The truth is that the spectators are usually the best players. We need to focus on ourselves and on whom we have become. We must move from surviving to thriving as well as move from fault finding to fault bearing. Like King David again, neither Tiger Wood, nor anyone, can fall beyond the reach of God's love and forgiveness. The is the most important lesson of all.
3. It is true that some people take joy in other people's pain and want to feel better than others or better about themselves especially when reading or witnessing such scandals as Tiger's. The truth is that none of us is better than Tiger. Every one of us must do his or her own repenting and equally go through his or her own stages of repentance - the constant replays, the gnawing guilt, the shame and finally the hope a new beginning that springs from true repentance.
4. The fact that God did not exposed our sins or our nakedness to the whole world does not mean that we ought to act as if we are without sin. Sometimes, it is a good thing for God to expose our sins and have us go through the fire as to come forth out of it as tried gold. But all said and done, Tiger Wood by God's mercies will be born again as he accepts the present pains with humility and contrition.
5. We must never forget Bill Clinton and all the attempts to scandalize him. We must never forget that the people who were his loudest critics have all fallen flat on their faces with exactly the same sin and in some cases worse that President Clinton. Some of them have been caught in men's bathroom soliciting men for sex, some on mountain trails with their "soul mate" outside of their marriages, some caught with other peoples' wives, and the list goes on and on.
6. We should focus on getting God to forgive us of our transgressions instead of focusing on someone else's. This is the essence of this encyclical. We must learn to look beyond the pains and failures of others. Rather, we must learn to look for the glory that follows every suffering and the change that follows when any individual have gone through painful processes.
7. We must learn to give room for folks like Tiger Wood to heal and to find restoration with his wife and family. The less attention we give to this incidence, the better the family can deal with their problems and heal from their pain. For Tiger, this too shall pass as he reclaims his place in history and in the heart of humanity.
Rejoinder to The Leadership Lesons from Tiger Wood's Recent Pains !!!!
1. Whatever happened to Tiger Wood happened in the past and it is going to happen again in the future. Everyone knows the difference between right and wrong and we know that there are consequences for our actions and inactions. The essence of my last encyclical and this present one is for us to look for possible good that might come out of his tragedy and see a glimmer of light. Perhaps, by reading this encyclicals, others might avoid the same pitfalls and other may gain some hope in forgiveness from God even when folks may never forgive or forget. Like King David of Israel, whose human failure was made open to all, his rebound would be the greatest legacy from this greatest golfer that ever lived.
2. However, we must learn that all sins are equal before God and that we must never judge other people too harshly because we are not without sin. We do not know what we would have done if given the same sets of circumstances as Tiger Wood. The truth is that the spectators are usually the best players. We need to focus on ourselves and on whom we have become. We must move from surviving to thriving as well as move from fault finding to fault bearing. Like King David again, neither Tiger Wood, nor anyone, can fall beyond the reach of God's love and forgiveness. The is the most important lesson of all.
3. It is true that some people take joy in other people's pain and want to feel better than others or better about themselves especially when reading or witnessing such scandals as Tiger's. The truth is that none of us is better than Tiger. Every one of us must do his or her own repenting and equally go through his or her own stages of repentance - the constant replays, the gnawing guilt, the shame and finally the hope a new beginning that springs from true repentance.
4. The fact that God did not exposed our sins or our nakedness to the whole world does not mean that we ought to act as if we are without sin. Sometimes, it is a good thing for God to expose our sins and have us go through the fire as to come forth out of it as tried gold. But all said and done, Tiger Wood by God's mercies will be born again as he accepts the present pains with humility and contrition.
5. We must never forget Bill Clinton and all the attempts to scandalize him. We must never forget that the people who were his loudest critics have all fallen flat on their faces with exactly the same sin and in some cases worse that President Clinton. Some of them have been caught in men's bathroom soliciting men for sex, some on mountain trails with their "soul mate" outside of their marriages, some caught with other peoples' wives, and the list goes on and on.
6. We should focus on getting God to forgive us of our transgressions instead of focusing on someone else's. This is the essence of this encyclical. We must learn to look beyond the pains and failures of others. Rather, we must learn to look for the glory that follows every suffering and the change that follows when any individual have gone through painful processes.
7. We must learn to give room for folks like Tiger Wood to heal and to find restoration with his wife and family. The less attention we give to this incidence, the better the family can deal with their problems and heal from their pain. For Tiger, this too shall pass as he reclaims his place in history and in the heart of humanity.
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